COPING WITH STRESSFUL EVENTS

 

Children are particularly vulnerable to the stress caused by emergency situations and can react in many different ways. Young children may show their emotions through actions such as crying, whining or bedwetting. Older children, who can better understand dangers to themselves and others, may experience an intense fear of injury or separation from family members. Other common reactions following emergency situations include a fear of the dark, physical pain, and eating or sleeping problems.

 

Often these reactions disappear quickly and there are a number of ways you can help kids cope with them during or after a very stressful event.

 

First, it’s important that you take their fears seriously. Don’t force them to be brave. Tell them that it’s okay to be scared. During an emergency reassure them that they are safe, that you will protect them from danger, and that you will continue to help them when they feel afraid.

 

Pay extra attention to them. Ask them what they have to say about their fears, their feelings, and their thoughts on what has happened.

 

Explain the events as best you can, and acknowledge what's frightening about what happened.

 

Be a behaviour model for kids by letting them know what you think and feel. It helps them feel less alone if they know that their feelings are similar to yours. If you are too upset, however, it is better to share your reactions with another adult.

 

Maintain familiar routines. Mealtimes, visits with playmates and regular bedtime hours are comforting for children. Familiar routines reinforce a child's sense of security.

 

Children are amazingly flexible and resilient, and parents can play a huge part in helping them overcome feelings of anxiety about stressful events. In some cases, however, it may be helpful to talk to a health professional such as a psychologist, a social worker, physician, nurse or psychiatrist, who can help children understand and cope with their emotions.

 

This tip has been brought to you by Public Safety Canada and Public Health Agency of Canada.